Do You Have ‘Perfect Moment Syndrome’? How To Tell And What To Do
Halloween is on the way, Thanksgiving isn’t far, and Christmas is just around the corner. Now is a great time to handle ‘Perfect Moment Syndrome’. I’m a person that likes order and is a bit of a control freak, so I understand those that want things to be perfect. Unfortunately, that rarely happens and getting upset about it can ruin an event.
According to Bustle, if you want everything to go perfectly at events and holidays, then become massively disappointed when it doesn’t, you may have ‘Perfect Moment Syndrome’. When planning an event, lots of work and time goes into it. For example, if you’re having family over for Thanksgiving, there’s a chance you’ve envisioned how things will go. After cooking, cleaning, setting the table, and greeting your guests, if there’s a wrench thrown into your day, it can be a bummer. I so understand!
Experts are saying that if you deal with ‘Perfect Moment Syndrome’, there are ways to combat it. Curveballs are a part of life and rarely does anything go perfectly. I am one of those people that usually has high expectations, and then ends up disappointed. As I’m getting older, I’m trying to live more in the present. If things don’t go as planned, laugh, and keep going.
A Few Ways To Deal With Disappointment
If you are dealing with ‘Perfect Moment Syndrome’ experts say to stop and be thankful. Live in the moment and smile. So, the stuffing for Thanksgiving was dry! It’s not the end of the world. And there’s a good chance your family and friends will remember the laughs and good times, not the dry stuffing. Dealing with anxiety, which is what this is, can be rough. Try digging into why you want things to always be perfect, it may help.
Jennifer A. Gray, MS, a licensed professional counselor, offers some advice: start by considering your priorities for the event. If laughs, food, and togetherness is important for your event, then focus on that. Worrying about how the house looks or if the cake has icing evenly isn’t that big of a deal. And those aren’t what memories are made of.
Remembering that life isn’t perfect and being mindful of the moment can help deal with this syndrome. There are reasons some of us deal with this (my hand is up) and you can read more about it here.
