Carolinians That Say These Phrases Have Poor Speech Etiquette

Many Carolinians say certain phrases almost every day that may show a lack of speech etiquette. According to a CNBC article written by John Bowe, a public speaking trainer, these are some of the top rude phrases that individuals use. 1. "Do you want to?" John Bowe says that this phrase is alright if you're offering a choice, but not so much when you're giving orders like "Do you want to clean the kitchen?" because it is belittling. Something like "Will you do me a favor?" is a much better choice. 2. "Right?" This is a "rhetorical nudge" that tends to follow questions, for example, "This place is the best, right?" This statement makes the person it is said to feel like they have to agree. Instead, it's better to say "Can you?" as in "I can't think of a better place, can you?" This phrase feels a lot less manipulative and gives the space for the other person to state their honest opinion. 3. "It is what it is." This phrase is basically just a way of saying "Stop complaining." If you're in a situation where you don't feel like you can give the other person much assistance it's much better to just say "that sounds rough. I'm sorry you're going through this." 4. "Obviously" This word can either subtly or not subtly at all state that disagreeing is wrong. Using this word can make you seem conceited. It's best to just skip this word entirely when having a conversation. [select-listicle listicle_id="481418" syndication_name="north-carolina-has-one-of-the-cheapest-christmas-vacations" description="yes"]