Cheating Spouses
If your husband or wife cheats on you, does it mean they don’t love you? I read an article that said most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat and haven’t fallen out of love; they’ve become unsatisfied with the current state of it. Because they want to be accepted, respected, loved, wanted, or praised (the things they likely feel they aren’t getting in their current relationship). The reasons vary from person-to-person, but they’re all about a need the person is trying to get met or void to fill.
So, the question is if your husband cheats on you, can you forgive him? Can you get past it? And do you think you will ever be able to trust or even forgive him? Answering yes to any of those questions means you have acknowledged the thing that caused him to step out of the marriage, the part you played in it and understand that it will be a huge job to get the relationship back on track. If you let his weak and sorry butt back in your life, communication is going to be key! I would imagine you could get some nice gifts from your hurt and pain.
If you’re one of those forgiving women, be willing to talk about everything especially the hurt. He needs to fully understand the hurt he’s caused, and he must be willing to have the difficult conversations and that means answering those hard questions regarding his shortfalls. If the communication and honesty is not there, this will NOT work. Be patient with yourself because healing takes time but know that you will move past the pain. Forgive the affair, whether you stay with your partner or not. Sometimes forgiveness promotes the healing you need and desire if the cut isn’t too deep.
Our hope is that your spouse turns away from adultery and pivots back to you. Mend your hearts of all the hurts, mend your relationship skills, and mend the way you regard each other. But, get yourself some gifts, like new car, new house or bank that money in an account he doesn’t know about. LOL!
