Keeping Your Relationship Alive
If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it’s easy to take for granted what you used to greatly appreciate. You assume that since you’re committed, your relationship is solid and doesn’t require the time, attention and energy it did in the early days. On the contrary, it’s a big mistake and if the neglect continues for too long, it can be a recipe for disaster. Here are some ways to keep your relationship going strong:
Catch your partner doing something good- Notice what your partner does that you appreciate (even if it is something they do every day) and say thank you.
Do something nice for them- We all have opportunities throughout our day to do something kind for our significant other. For example, make them coffee in the morning, empty the dishwasher even though it isn’t your turn, or offer to cook dinner when you know they’ve had a hard day. The options are endless.
Show your partner physical affection- This could include a longer kiss than usual before you walk out the door, a hug after returning home, holding their hand while watching TV, or snuggling up next to them in bed.
Spend quality time with them- Planning quality time with your lover sends the message that they are important. It allows dedicated space for the two of you to connect.
Support them emotionally- We all have hard moments in life. When your partner reaches toward you to express some difficult emotions, make sure you listen to them and provide empathy and support. To add to the last tip, sometimes we just want you to listen intently without projecting your stuff. I know that listening can be painful especially if you’re the kind of person with a short attention span.
